Aaliyah Sutff

Aaliyah Merch
Aaliyah's brother Rashad has been working really hard for the fans. Aaliyah LLC has released official Aaliyah fashion tee's for women and men at Urban Outfitters. Go here to get onehttp://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/catalog/search.jsp?q=aaliyah#/

Aaliyah Fragrance
Also set for pre-order Aaliyah's first fragrance with Xyrena! The fragrance was created by her brother and mother using notes from fragrances that Aaliyah actually wore! The scent is unisex, you can get it herehttps://xyrena.com/product/aaliyahedp/

Aaliyah 4 MAC
Here is the promo vid seen on the aaliyahformac social media & Aaliyah's official twitter to get MAC's attention: Are you ready, Mac Cosmetics for Aaliyah for MAC: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=je2AuhhEjPA

Also check out the video below they recently made to celebrate hitting 8k!

Perfectly Full

godiz - I probably had over 20 pcs of sushi today... i was so good, it melted in my mouth... the plates are proof, the two on top on the other side are mines too lol
Phone pix sux, i know, sowwe.

A Smoother Cycle

Menstruation is a natural part of a woman’s life, but painful menstrual cramps are a very annoying problem for many. While menstrual cramps are rarely a cause for concern, if severe they can disrupt regular activities. Menstrual cramps are due to a hormone-like substance called prostaglandin that causes the uterine muscles to contract during menstruation. Cramping can cause a dull or throbbing pain in the lower abdomen, and radiate pain to the lower back and thighs. Cramps generally subside after the first two to three days of the period. Some women feel cramps just before the onset of their cycle, too.

Causes of menstrual pain: Woman’s body produces prostaglandin a hormone which help the uterus to contract and get rid of mucous. The uterus must contract to generate the menstrual flow, and these contractions result in experience of pain. Generally the intensity of cramps is directly related to the amount of prostaglandin produced by the body, However in certain cases, other factors like endometriosis, might be responsible for these cramps. Endometriosis is the development of normal tissue of the uterus, outside its usual location. Endometriosis really increases the pain of menstrual cramps. Another instance of unusual menstrual pain occurs when uterus tries to remove blood clots caused by fibroids.

Side effects of menstrual pain: In most cases, dysmenorrhea has no consequence other than the inconvenience of pain. However in case of intense, repeated and unrelieved menstrual pain, it can cause psychological distress, and sometimes even depression. Although it is impossible to sometimes completely eliminate cramps, there are many ways to relieve pain.

Now that we know why we suffer from menstrual cramps, here are some tips to help relieve the discomfort.

Fomentation or Hot Sitz Bath - Massaging the painful area with hot water bottle or heating pad increases the blood flow and circulation to the uterus, which helps reduce the effect of chemicals that cause menstrual cramps. A hot sitz bath can also be used to get relief from menstrual pain. '

Also Applying lavender oil around your stomach is known to help relieving cramps in just 10 to 15 mins. Massaging with creams or oils that have deep heating action is one of the best home remedies for menstrual pain.

The abdomen can also be warmed by drinking hot liquids, such as clear soups, broths or herbal teas.

Cold Packs - Some women find a cold pack to be more effective than hot bath in relieving menstrual pain. Cold pack helps constrict blood vessels, which provides relief from the cramps.

Ice pack prepared by putting ice in a zipped plastic bag and covering it with a towel can be placed on the abdomen for 15 to 20 minutes.

Keep up the exercise - Relaxation exercises are effective remedy for menstrual pain. It is important that you continue with gentle exercise during your periods. It helps by releasing beta-endorphins, which are internal Opioids — your own ‘human morphine’.

It is natural to feel bloated before your periods, if you reduce your salt intake a few days before your periods it will help your kidneys flush out excess water.

Walking is effective in reducing menstrual pain because it improves blood circulation in the pelvic area. Swimming is also very effective in reducing menstrual pain as it releases endorphins – the body’s natural painkiller which is effective home remedy for menstrual pain.

Another effective light exercise for menstrual cramps is as follow: Lie on the back on the floor or a bed, knees bent, feet flat on the floor or on the bed and stretch out your arms to the side, palms flat. Swing your stomach slightly up and down for several minutes, by relaxing the muscles. By making these small movements, taking quick, short breaths one can get relief from menstrual pain. 

Dress for comfort - Avoid tight clothes, especially at the waist. They only hurt the stomach and further compressing it causes discomfort.

Heat - Place a heating pad over the lower part of your abdomen and lower back. You can even use a regular plastic bottle or a bag filled with hot water. Apply the heat until you feel more comfortable. A heating pad or hot water bottle is a simple, tried and true way to reduce muscle spasms.

Alternatively, soak a towel in water, wring out the excess water. Place it on the lower abdomen until the towel cools. Repeat every few minutes until the pain is gone. Even taking a hot shower or bath may relieve pain and make you feel more relaxed.

Concentrate the flow of water on your back and abdomen.

Try Acupuncture - Certain acupuncture points are thought to regulate blood flow through the abdominal cavity and relax the nervous system, which can help calm muscular contractions. Studies show that acupuncture is just as effective as over-the-counter anti-inflammatory medicines for reducing pain.

Food rich in Calcium - Several independent researches have shown that women who consumed about 1,200 mg of calcium per day or more witness a reduction in their menstrual pain. Calcium helps maintain normal muscle tone. Muscles rules that lack calcium tend to become hyperactive which causes menstrual cramps. Thus calcium provides a great relief from menstrual pain. Calcium also helps in reducing water retention and improving mood. On an average, women are recommended a minimum daily intake 800 mg of Calcium. The normal staple diet is naturally deficient in Calcium. Taking food naturally rich in calcium is effective in treatment of menstrual pain.

Food rich in Magnesium - Magnesium increases the absorption of calcium from the body and thus helps in reducing menstrual pain. Food rich in magnesium include beans, salmon, vegetables and nuts plus more.

Unripe Papaya - A potent anti-inflammatory agent, papaya is very helpful in treating menstrual cramps. Also, it has nutrients like carotene, iron, calcium and vitamins A and C that help soothe the uterine walls and ease muscle contractions. Just before and during your period, include papaya in your diet to minimize or eliminate pain. Papaya is a very effective home remedy for menstrual cramps during menstrual cycle. Eating unripe papaya around a woman’s menstrual cycle is very effective preventive measure against menstrual pain.

Sesame Seeds - Sesame seeds are amongst the best home remedies for menstrual pain and cramps. Sesame seeds help in keeping the blood flow regular and reduce the possibility of cramps during the menstrual cycle. Taking sesame seeds soaked in water or eating a handful of the seeds are very helpful in menstrual problems. For best results one can eat the seeds at least two or three days before the menstrual cycle starts.

Ginger - Ginger is a wonder herb that can effectively ease menstrual cramps. This herb plays a key role in lowering the levels of the pain-causing prostaglandins. It also helps fight fatigue associated with premenstrual syndrome and can make irregular periods regular.

Grate a small piece of ginger and boil it in a cup of water for five minutes. Strain it and add a little honey and lemon juice. Drink this tea three times a day during your menstrual cycle.

You can also add ginger in your food while cooking or suck on some ginger candies.

Basil Leaves - Basil is another very effective herb for reducing menstrual pain and cramps. The caffeic acid present in basil has analgesic, or pain-killing properties. Basil leaves are an excellent home remedy for menstrual problems. Using these leaves can help in getting relief from cramps. Basil leaves can be had in raw form or can be added in tea or as a spice in the food. It can also be added in water and drunk for relief from menstrual pain.

Add one tablespoon of basil leaves to one cup of boiling water. Cover tightly and allow it to cool. Drink this every few hours to ease cramps.

Alternatively, crush a handful of basil leaves to extract the juice. Add two teaspoons of the juice to one cup of warm water. Drink this three times daily while having pain.

You can also add fresh basil leaves to your food.

Blackstrap Molasses - Another time-tested remedy for menstrual cramps is blackstrap molasses. Being rich in calcium, iron, potassium, magnesium, manganese, vitamin B6 and selenium, blackstrap molasses helps reduce blood clots and soothe the muscles of the uterine walls. This in turn lessens cramps during menstruation.

Flaxseed - Flaxseed is great for reducing the intensity of menstrual cramps. The essential fatty acids in flaxseed help stabilize the production of progesterone. Plus, flaxseed can improve uterine function and help treat fertility problems.

When suffering from menstrual cramps, consume one to two tablespoons of flaxseed daily. You can sprinkle ground flaxseed over a salad, yogurt or put it in a smoothie.

Chamomile Tea - Chamomile tea has anti-inflammatory and antispasmodic properties that help relax the uterus and ease the spasmodic contractions that cause pain during menstruation.

Bring one cup of water to a boil. Pour it into a cup containing a chamomile tea bag. Cover and let it steep for 10 to 15 minutes... Squeeze out the tea bag and add some lemon juice or honey as desired. Drink at least two cups of chamomile tea a day during the week before your period.

Jasmine tea is another alternative.

Parsley - Parsley is also very effective in getting relief from menstrual pain. Parsley also regulates irregular menstrual cycle. A juice made from parsley can be taken twice a day during periods to prevent excessive menstrual pain. Parsley tea can alternative be used during periods. Parsley contains two compounds, apiol and myristicin, that are highly effective at stimulating the menstrual process and relieving cramps. Plus, it can help regulate irregular cycles.

Put one-fourth cup of fresh parsley in a mug. Pour in one cup of boiling water. Let it steep for five minutes. Strain the solution and drink the tea immediately. Drink this tea twice a day during periods to minimize pain.

Fennel - The antispasmodic, phytoestrogenic and anti-inflammatory properties of fennel can help relax the muscles in the uterus, which in turn relieves cramping and discomfort.

Add one teaspoon of fennel seeds to a cup of boiling water. Simmer the mixture on low heat for five minutes. Remove from heat and strain the tea. Add one teaspoon of honey and mix well. Drink this herbal tea two times daily beginning three days before the expected start date of your cycle. Continue drinking it as needed for pain. Drink it hot for best results.

Coriander Seeds - Coriander seeds have vital anti inflammatory and other useful properties that makes it very effective in reducing menstrual pain and correcting irregular menstrual cycle.

A handful of seeds should be boiled in water till very little water remains and this should then be strained and this can be taken twice daily and can be taken when warm for better results.

Cinnamon - has antispasmodic, anticlotting and anti-inflammatory properties that can relieve menstrual pain. Plus, cinnamon is an excellent source of dietary fiber, calcium, iron and manganese.

Make cinnamon tea by stirring one-fourth teaspoon of cinnamon powder into a cup of hot water. Let it sit for up to five minutes, add a little honey and then sip it slowly. Drink two to three cups of cinnamon tea one to two days before your period starts to prevent cramps.

Add one-half teaspoon of cinnamon powder and one tablespoon of honey to a glass of warm water. Drink it three times during the first day of your period to relieve pain.

Carrots - are not only good for your eyes; they also assist in regulating menstruation. A tall glass of carrot juice can go a long way in making you feel much better.

Aloe Vera - juice with honey is also well known to ease the flow and reducing the pain.

Raspberry - leaf is considered to be a mild uterine tonic. Try a cup of raspberry leaf tea each day throughout the month. Keep in mind you are looking for the herbal tea, not raspberry-flavored black tea.

Also... A great pain reliever is the wild yam (Ratalu), its antispasmodic qualities help make the pain that much more bearable. 

Eat More Greens - Dark leafy greens are a dietary source of magnesium, calcium, and countless other micronutrients. These nutrients are essential for mediating muscle contractions. In Chinese dietary therapy, dark green vegetables are also considered to be mildly cleansing, which is what the body needs in a “stagnation” condition. Some greens such as dandelion greens (very bitter, but very helpful) also have a mild diuretic effect, which reduces bloating.

A diet regimen comprising of the following nutrients is recommended as home remedy for menstrual pain.

Omega 3 -  Take liberal amount of fatty fish (salmon, sardines, mackerel,herring), oil of flaxseed and hemp seeds, which are important sources of omega-3.

Mineral rich - Diet should be rich in vitamins and minerals like calcium and magnesium. These micronutrients are essential for the metabolism of prostaglandins and their absence results in production of excessive prostaglandins which results in menstrual pain.

Water Consumption - Also, do not forget to drink plenty of water. If you experience severe menstrual cramps on a regular basis. Drink enough water to keep the body hydrated and to regulate the menstrual flow.

Fiber rich food - Constipation is a very common complaint associated with monthly cycles. Add extra fiber to your diet during periods to keep your digestive system in order.

Foods to avoid... 

Sugar - Reduce consumption of refined sugars as it produces insulin which results in production of pro-inflammatory prostaglandins.

Salt - Women who tend to retain water during their periods must limit sodium intake. Salty snacks like chips and cheese can make you feel bloated.

Vegetable fatsEat less vegetable fats and margarine, as they result in formation of pro-inflammatory prostaglandins, which is the main cause of menstrual pain.

Red meats - Red meats are rich in arachidonic acid, which stimulates production of pro-inflammatory prostaglandins. They have properties that exacerbate the pain.

Other foods to avoid... Avoid most teas, alcohol and caffeinated foods (caffeine is a strict NO) which might worsen the condition. Avoid white flour products and tinned foods.

Other recommendations - Researches have shown that anxiety triggers release of adrenaline and cortisol which increase pain and discomfort during menstrual cycle. Indulge a little in creative pursuits to keep yourself away from thinking of cramps. A positive bent of mind triggers release of several vital hormones which help relief from pain and other menstrual discomforts.

Try to incorporate practices such as massage, or meditation into your lifestyle. In addition to pain relief, don’t be surprised if these changes also lead to better digestion, better sleep, and a steadier mood.

However, if these measures are not enough to improve your quality of life, an acupuncturist or naturopath can offer you further refinement of natural strategies. Also, keep in mind that excessively painful menstruation can be a sign of a more serious underlying medical issue, such as endometriosis, a uterine infection, or a problem with the uterine anatomy. If the pain continue to create discomfort every month, despite the home remedies you try, consider discussing the matter with your primary care provider to make sure these possibilities are addressed, especially if you just can’t seem to get your pain under control.

Just remember to be kind to yourself – relax, read a book, listen to some soft music or chat up with friends. If you feel happy and rejuvenated, your mind will help you fight physical pain. Check out funny period stories... 

more info here http://wellnessmama.com/7199/pms-cramps-remedies

Army Of Love

godiz - The Only Army i stand for is the Army of Love.


Did you know that the Basketball was originally played with a soccer ball... The first balls made specifically for basketball were brown, and it was only in the late 1950s that when, searching for a ball that would be more visible to players and spectators alike, introduced the orange ball that is now in common use. 

basketball is a spherical inflated ball used in a game of basketball. Basketballs typically range in size from very small promotional items only a few inches in diameter to extra large balls nearly a foot in diameter used in training exercises to increase the skill of players. The standard size of a basketball in the NBA is 9.5 to 9.85 inches (24.1 to 25.0 cm) in diameter.


Nearly all basketballs have an inflatable inner rubber bladder, generally wrapped in layers of fiber and then covered with a tacky surface made either from leather (traditional), rubber, or a synthetic composite. As in most inflatable balls, there is a small opening that allows the pressure to be increased or decreased.
The surface of the ball is nearly always divided by "ribs" that are recessed below the surface of the ball in a variety of configurations and are generally a contrasting color. An orange surface with black ribs and a possible logo is the traditional color scheme of basketballs but they are sold in various colors.
Balls are generally designated for indoor (generally made of leather or absorbent composites), or all-surface use (generally made of rubber or durable composites, also known as Indoor/Outdoor balls). Indoor balls tend to be considerably more expensive than all-surface balls due to cost of materials. In addition, brand new all-leather indoor balls must be "broken in" first to achieve optimal grip before use in competition. The abrasiveness of asphalt and the dirt and moisture present in an outdoor setting will usually ruin an indoor ball within a very short period of time, which is why an indoor/outdoor ball is recommended for recreational players.

Spalding was the first company to produce a basketball for official use. Company founder A.G. Spalding made the first dedicated basketball in the last years of the 19th century at the behest of James Naismith. It has produced basketballs since that time and has produced the NBA’s official game ball since 1983. The also produce the balls for the Women's National Basketball Association and NBA Development League. The company also produces a wide variety of balls for the consumer market.
In 2012, it also became official provider for both the Euroleague and Eurocup competitions. It also serves as provider for Liga ACBSpalding became the new supplier for NBL (Australia) in 2010.

Molten a Japanese sporting goods manufacturer, has the current contract to provide game balls for:
Until the 2006–07 season, it had provided balls for both Europe-wide competitions organized by Euroleague Basketball, the Euroleague and ULEB Cup (now the Eurocup). Molten's top-of-the line product is the GL7, a leather ball with a distinctive 12-panel design.

Wilson Sporting Goods is the official ball supplier of all NCAA postseason tournaments, most notably the men's and women's Division I tournaments, and is used by many NCAA teams during the season as well by many high school leagues. As of 2015, Wilson also supplies balls for all FIBA-operated 3x3 competitions. Like Spalding, Wilson produces a variety of balls for the consumer market as well.

Rawlings has manufactured basketballs since 1902. The company is known for producing a 10-panel ball (known as the TEN), along with traditional 8-panel balls. The TEN basketball is the official ball of the Amateur Athletic Union and the "Gus Macker", the largest 3-on-3 basketball tournament in the United States.

Nike had the contract to produce balls for the Euroleague Basketball Company (including the Euroleague and the Eurocup) from 2007[7] until 2012, when it turned to Spalding. In the Philippines the NCAA and UAAP use the Nike 4005 Official Tournament Balls.


Different sizes are used for different age groups. The common standards are:

3Mini56–57 cm (22–22 in)
5Youth69–71 cm (27–28 in)
6Women's official72–74 cm (28–29 in)
7Men's official75–76 cm (30–30 in)
Note that the ball used for all competitions (men's, women's, and mixed) in the formalized half court game of 3x3 combines characteristics of the size 6 and size 7 balls. Its circumference is that of a size 6 ball, but its weight is that of a size 7.


Bible Study: The Bible mention many women of great beauty: Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel, Abigail, Bathsheba, and Esther. Esther 2:9 tells of Queen Esther's daily beauty regimen. As Christian women, our appearance should be a compliment to our inner spirit and never a hindrance to the kingdom of God. We should be concerned more about our inner beauty than our outer beauty. Beauty is more than an appealing face. It is a Christlike spirit that personifies God's love. In our vanity, we should remember the stooped woman in Luke 13:10-17, who carried her visible affliction for 18 years. She wasn't always bent and crooked. She had once stood straight and tall. She was elegant and balanced. Her body did not fight against her, and her eyes could look straight up to heavens. Now we have been humbled in our bodies and must find other things to think on. We have been falsely led to believe that who we are is what we look like in the midst of our youth. But Jesus tells us that the presentation of our lives is what honors the gifts that have been given to us. Vanity is a product of our will. As people, we must choose whether the center of our affections will be self or God. In our vanity, we misunderstand the gifts that God has given us. We make them into idols and worship them. They, in turn, serve to separate us from ourselves, each other, and from God. We are gifted - not by the mere appearance of our face and bodies - but by the love of God who created us, the forgiveness of Christ Jesus who liberates us, and the presence of the Holy Spirit who sustains us. Read Luke 13:10-17.

Fresh And Clean

godiz - My fasting food... apple, spinach, lime, mint and pineapple juice...
 along with some opuntia aka cactus fruit. Have a blessed saturday.

Music Minure - Lambada

godiz - Saying adios to summer... until next year... Time for heavy clothes.

Swinging Lemonade

At granma's with my cousin, her daughter and my sister.. drinking homemade lemonade..

At the park with my newest lil best friend Olivia... swinging back and forth in our adidas.

Spotless Sun

The BEST stain remover EVER

If your clothes come out of the wash with a stain, you could easily get it out…in the sun! It's like magic! You can sun heavily-stained clothes that in most cases will whiten right up after a few hours in the sun!
The key is to place the article of clothing, etc.–in the full sun while it is still very wet.
You can also spray the stain directly with either a little vinegar water or lemon water.
This is very easy, free, simple and it works.

I'm a Turtle

I'm a little turtle, 
I crawl so slow, 
And carry my house 
Wherever I go. 
When I get tired 
I pull in my head, 
My legs and my tail, 
And go to bed!

Laying In The Grass

A Gentle-Man

Behaviors Of A Gentleman That Every Man Should Adopt. It's the little things that count the most.

The complaint that "chivalry is dead" is so common now that it's become a cliché. But it doesn't have to be dead. Chivalry can be resurrected. A gentleman is described as "someone who always tries to make sure the people around him or her are as comfortable as possible. Here are some timeless habits of a gentlemen as guidelines for how to bring back chivalry. 

  • A gentleman opens doors for a lady. As far as a gentleman is concerned, all women and girls should be treated as ladies. Opening a door is not a gesture of condescension, but rather courtesy and deference. As far as revolving doors go, modern manners dictate that a gentleman allow the woman to enter first. Car doors are no exception, regardless of who is driving. If a third party is driving, open the curbside door and ensure that she is safely in before closing it. 
  • A gentleman walks closest to the curb. The idea being, of course, to protect her from traffic, debris, puddles and other urban calamities. 
  •  A gentleman makes reservations. Doing something as simple as making a reservation not only shows initiative and planning – and therefore concern for her – it also guarantees you won't be sitting around drinking water waiting for a giant pager to go off.
  •  A gentleman gives her his jacket. Especially when it's freezing. Especially when it's snowing. Especially in the rain. If she looks cold, she's cold. Just take your jacket off. 
  •  A gentleman is punctual. If you're not early, you're late. Plan for traffic and other little disasters. Make sure you have gas in your car. There's no excuse for being late. Respect her time. And if she's late, don't draw attention to it. The correct answer to the question "how long have you been waiting" is "I just got here a few minutes ago." Never keep a woman waiting. 
  • A gentleman rises when she enters the room. Again, a sign of respect and acknowledgement. You should also rise when she exits. At a meal, you stand when she excuses herself and again when she returns. Even a partial rising shows gentle manners, but it's best to fully stand if possible. 
  •  A gentleman gives compliments sincerely and often. The first words out of your mouth when you meet a woman on a date should be along the lines of "you look stunning." If you're in a relationship, don't fall into the trap of taking her for granted: compliment her as if you were courting her all over again. 
  • A gentleman helps her to be seated. 1. Pull the chair out for her. 2. As her knees bend to sit, gently push the chair in with both hands on the backrest. On a related note... 
  • A gentleman gives up his seat. Yes, on the subway. Yes, on the bus. Yes, in the waiting room at the DMV. It doesn't hurt. It costs you nothing. And if a pregnant woman or elderly lady steps into your subway car, your first instinct should be to immediately stand and offer your seat.
  • A gentleman helps a lady with her coat. Ask, "May I?" Position yourself behind her and gently grasp her coat near the collar and shoulder and allow her to slip free. Either drape the coat over your arm or hang it up. To help her put the garment back on, hold the coat in the same way and allow her to slip her arms in, then straighten the collar as she adjusts. 
  • A gentleman says "please" and "thank you." Far too often overlooked, a simple "please" and "thank you" can go a very long way. 
  • A gentleman minds his table manners. Even if you've never mastered the continental style of using utensils (left hand, fork; right hand, knife), it doesn't take any training to not talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open. 
  • A gentleman is never rude to servers, bartenders, or anyone else for that matter. There is nothing more offensive than someone who talks down to someone and treats them as if they were inferiors. That kind of snobbery has no place anywhere: it's ill-mannered, awful for everyone around you, and it makes you look like an ass. Treat people as you would like to be treated. And note this, don't ever curse. A foul mouth is not a trait of a gentleman.
  • A gentleman pays. Put away the calculator. The term "going Dutch" was invented by the English as an insult: they regarded the Dutch as cheap. Just pay... and don't think that paying means you've bought anything more than dinner or drinks. There should be no expectations attached. Under no circumstances should she see the check or have any idea how much it is. A tight-lipped smile is your friend here, as always. 
  • A gentleman gets her safely to her door. Her safety, comfort, and well-being are your first and foremost priority. After a date, meeting, dinner... whatever... make sure that she gets home safely and thank her for the pleasure of her company. 
  • A gentleman listens. If you want to get to know a person, ask them questions... and listen to their responses. Listening does not mean "waiting for your chance to talk." It means being attentive, learning to read responses, understand reactions, and navigate someone's emotional landscape.
  • A gentleman keeps his word and a secret. Don't commit yourself to any obligation that you are not willing to brave fire, famine, and flood to fulfill. Likewise, when you are entrusted with a secret, guard it as closely as you do your own. There is no breakup, no fight, no argument, no falling out that absolves you from this responsibility. Live and die with the secrets entrusted to you locked away in your heart. 
  • A gentleman never hits a woman. Ever. No matter what: you never hit a woman. There's no excuse. There's no possible argument to the contrary. There's no "what if?" and there's no qualifier. Gentlemen don't hit women. Ever. 
  • A gentleman shows initiative. If you're asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes looks better...have an actual opinion. "They both look the same" or "whatever you like" are not actual opinions. Likewise, if you're asking someone on a date, have a destination in mind. Have a plan. 
  • A gentleman pays attention to details. Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring size (please note that nearly all jewelry stores display a default ring size of 6 for women). Her favorite color. This information will prove useful and when it does – when you show up with a bundle of lavender because you know it reminds her of her grandmother – it shows you care. 
  • A gentleman asks for her family's blessing before proposing. This modern departure from asking her father for permission acknowledges the importance of her whole family: mom, dad, brothers, sisters, grandparents. It shows respect for her family: you are, after all, asking to join them. 
  • A gentleman is a jack of all trades. He knows how to do things. He's the guy people look to in an emergency, whether it's a natural disaster or a social one. A gentleman is prepared to answer questions and if he doesn't know the answer, he knows where to find it. He is confident and socially adroit, able to handle any situation that life throws at him. "A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly."
  • A gentleman goes out of his way to let her know he cares Every Single Day. Flowers, affectionate post-it notes, spa days, simple compliments. All of those things add up. So show your affection every day. Manners aren't something that should feel forced or ostentatious: rather, they should make the people around you feel better about being around you.
Will the real gent's please stand up... Let's bring back a bit of chivalry.

Goat Cheese


Humboldt Fog, Bleu du Bocage, Garrotxa, Crottin de Chavignol, Tomme de Chevre Aydius, Brunet, Saint-Maure de Touraine

Goat cheese is tangy and full of flavor, yet some folks shy away from this creamy delight. Give it a try; you won’t want to miss out on this wonderfully versatile cheese.

What is Goat Cheese?
Also known as “chevre” (French for goat), goat cheese has a distinct tangy flavor. Made from (you guessed it) goat’s milk, it’s available in soft, semi-soft and firm varieties. Check labels when you can; some brands are made from a mixture of both goat and cows milk.

Some might consider it an acquired taste but the tangy bite and super creamy texture of goat cheese lends itself to all kinds of foods. Enjoy cold and crumbled over a salad or smooth and melty on a burger. Commonly shaped into logs or rounds, you might also find this delicate cheese rolled in herbs or spices – great for spreading on crackers.

Store fresh goat cheese in the refrigerator, wrapped in plastic for up to 2 weeks.

Healthy Attributes
Goat cheese is actually lower in fat and higher in protein than many other soft cheeses. A 1-ounce portion has about 75 calories and 6 grams of fat. It also contains 5 grams of protein and about 5% of the daily recommendation for vitamin A and calcium.

Folks with lactose intolerance swear by goat cheese; some have an easier time digesting it than other types of cows milk cheeses. It does contain slightly less lactose, but those with milk allergies (a different condition than lactose intolerance) should still avoid it.

Five Ways to Love Goat Cheese

1. Add bite to a pizza

2. Crumble some over a green salad

3. Press some goat cheese into a quesadilla

4. Use it to flavor a turkey burger

5. Melt some goat cheese into a veggie frittata

godiz - One of my favorite cheeses for shibb... fresh figs, honey, mint, nuts together with goats cheese yum.

Read more at: http://blog.foodnetwork.com/healthyeats/2011/11/30/have-you-tried%E2%80%A6-goat-cheese/?oc=linkback

Random Cries

On my walk today i got sad... thanks to some construction workers who where tearing down healthy living trees.


Bible Verse Sunday

prayer - Leading God, Your way is always perfect, even when I'm feeling as if I'm in charge. Lead me, guide me, along life's way. With You in charge i cannot stray.

Stylistic Pac

godiz - Strong and individualistic a classy thug with deep dark beautiful eyes that are to die for. From the iconic bandanas to leather vests... This is my own style collage of Mr Shakur.

Family - Through God's Eyes

The Family Relationship:
Husbands, Wives, Parents, and Children in Godly Homes

A study of the Bible pattern for the home: how family members should treat one another. What are the duties of the husband, wife, parents, and children? How important are love and commitment in marriage? For what cause may spouses divorce and remarry? Who should exercise authority as head in the home? Who should provide family income and who should care for the home? How diligent should parents be in teaching and training the children? Should parents use spanking, discipline, and punishment to motivate obedience? Who should care for elderly parents? God's word gives inspired instruction to guide us to happy homes.

God created the marriage relationship to be a blessing to everyone involved. Yet many families today are clearly troubled. Alienation often exists between husband and wife, between parents and children, or among brothers and sisters. What instruction does God's word provide to help us have homes that please Him and accomplish His will?
God has chosen the framework of the family to help us understand authority and His plan in our life. The structure of the family is vital to so many other laws, principles and teachings in the Bible. If it is so important, it is also important to understand what God’s plan for the family is so that we can understand the rest of His Word as it applies to us today.
God instituted the family in Genesis 2:18 when He said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” He then formed Eve from a rib of Adam as told in verses 21-24 part of which says, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Then in Ephesians 5:31 God says the same thing in the New Testament. “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”

Without a man and a woman coming together in marriage, there is no family. God brought Adam and Eve together and established the basis for the family. This basis is a man and a woman.God also instituted the principle that a man and woman would depart from their parents and family unit to begin a new family unit.
God’s desire for the family is that it reproduce and multiply. Genesis 1:27 and 28 say, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.” God desires that husbands and wives bring forth offspring. This creates more of the definition God has for a family. Obviously not everyone is capable of producing children. However, in God’s plan for the family we should be in such a relationship that God could grant us children if He chooses to do so. When a relationship is one such that no offspring can possibly be produced, then it is not a proper family according to the Bible.
Within the family God has given its members roles and responsibilities. Each person may fill one or more of the following roles.

The Husband's Responsibilities to His Wife

The Husband Should Be Committed to Marriage for Life.

Multitudes of marriages in our society end in divorce. Consider the Bible teaching.
Romans 7:2,3 -- Husband and wife are bound as long as they both live. One may remarry only when his spouse has died. To remarry while ones spouse is alive constitutes adultery. (Mal. 2:14-16)
Matthew 19:3-9 -- Fornication is the only Scriptural grounds for divorce. One is guilty of adultery if he divorces for another reason and remarries. This constitutes adultery because he is still bound to his first wife, yet having the sexual union with another woman. (Matt. 5:31,32)
Man should enter marriage fully realizing that it is a lifetime commitment. Divorce without Scriptural grounds should never be seriously considered nor discussed as an option. However, if one is in an unscriptural remarriage, he must leave it to avoid adultery (cf. 1 Cor. 7:10,11).
The Husband Should Love His Wife.
Some men act selfishly or even abuse their wives, and some even claim that the Bible says a man has the right to do this. But consider what the Bible really teaches.
Ephesians 5:25-31,33 -- A man should love his wife as Christ loved the church and as he loves his own body. What can Jesus' love for the church teach husbands?
Jesus' love was not a romantic mood or emotion but a choice or commitment. He did not wait till we acted lovingly toward Him but did what we needed even when our conduct was unattractive. This required serious sacrifice for our good.
Likewise a husband should be committed to do his wife good, even if she is not acting lovingly toward him nor attracting him romantically. He must do good even at the cost of serious personal sacrifice.
1 Peter 3:7 -- A man should try to understand what his wife needs, rather than being bitter toward her (Col. 3:19). He will not expect her to do heavy work since she is not as strong. And he will respect her as being of equal spiritual value with himself.
1 Corinthians 7:3-5 -- A husband also shows love by expressing affection and fulfilling the wife's intimate needs.
Jesus expressed loved for the church both by words and by deeds. If a husband properly loves his wife, he will tell her so, but he will also show it by his actions.
The Husband Should Work to Provide for the Physical Needs of the Family.
Many men leave their wives and children without the necessities of life because they quit their jobs for frivolous reasons or waste their income selfishly.
Genesis 3:17-19 -- The man was required to labor despite hardships in order to have food. (Cf. 2 Thess. 3:10.)
1 Timothy 5:8 -- As the head of the family (see next point), a man should provide, not just for himself, but for his whole household. The Bible gives many examples of men having occupations or businesses outside the home. Many Bible examples show men employed away from the home in such occupations as shepherd, carpenter, physician, fisherman, merchant, farmer, sailor, preacher, tentmaker, etc. (See also Eph. 5:28,29).
This is the God-given duty of the husband. No passage instructs the wife to do this. Man should not neglect his other responsibilities by over-emphasizing work. Yet one who neglects working, expecting his wife or other people to provide income for his family, is worse than an infidel.
The Husband Should Be the Head of the Family.
Some claim that man should not exercise authority over his wife or that his authority should be limited to just certain areas. In practice, women are often the leaders in making family decisions. But note:
Ephesians 5:22-24 -- The husband is head of his wife as Christ is head of the church (see other verses below). Neither his wife nor their parents are the authority in his family (cf. Gen. 2:24).
Love will lead a husband to consider the needs and desires of the wife and children. He will make decisions for the good of the whole group, not just to please himself. This requires discussion at times to understand the views of others.
However, the husband does have the final authority, and will give account to God for his decisions. Often this responsibility is not a privilege but a burden. He needs the courage to stand for what he is convinced is best, even when the wife or children disagree.
If the wife fails to fulfill her duties, this does not justify the husband in failing to fulfill his duties (Romans 12:17-21; Luke 6:27-35).
The Wife's Responsibilities to Her Husband

The Wife Too Should Have a Lifetime Commitment to the Marriage.

Neither the man nor the woman have the right to end the marriage while their spouse is alive, except for the cause of fornication. (See passages listed above.)
The Wife Should Love Her Husband.
Modern feminists say a woman does not need a man but should find fulfillment outside marriage.
Genesis 2:18-24 -- Woman was created to be a companion and helper to man. She is not required to marry (see 1 Cor. 7), but by nature she would find her greatest fulfillment in life by loving and caring for a family. (See also Mal. 2:14.)
Titus 2:4 -- Young women should be taught to love their husbands and their children. This is something a woman can learn to do. Again, love is a matter of choice and commitment, not primarily a romantic mood.
1 Corinthians 7:3-5 -- The wife too should show affection and fulfill her husband's intimate needs.
The Wife Should Submit to the Headship of the Husband.
We have learned that God teaches husbands to use their authority in love. Though our society may protest and rebel, He also tells wives to submit to their husbands.
Ephesians 5:22-24,33 -- Just as the church should submit to Christ, not rebelliously but respectfully, so the wife must abide by all her husband's decisions. The only exception would be if the husband commanded her to do something that would violate God's law (Acts 5:29).
Titus 2:5 -- Young women should be taught to be obedient to their husbands. This does not mean woman has less ability or less value than man (cf. 1 Peter 3:7; Matt. 20:25-28; Gal. 3:28). But someone must be in charge to make decisions in the home. God has determined that this responsibility belongs to the man.
(See also Gen. 3:16; Col. 3:18; 1 Peter 3:1-6; 1 Cor. 11:3).
The Wife Should Work at Home Caring for Her Family.
Our society places little value on the work of homemakers. Instead it encourages women to neglect their family responsibilities to do things God never required them to do.
Titus 2:4,5; 1 Timothy 5:14 -- God says the work of mothers is at home. They are to manage the household, loving and caring for their family. This work is a blessing and should be valued and appreciated (cf. Psalm 113:9).
We learned that providing family income is a God-given responsibility for the husband. It is not the wife's responsibility. There may be emergency exceptions (as when the husband has died or is disabled), but generally a mother should not neglect her God-given duties nor give them to other people so she can have a career or job outside the home.
Is it not true that outside jobs and similar activities often hinder wives and mothers from fulfilling duties that God requires of them? Consider responsibilities in the family, the church, Bible study, teaching others, benevolence, hospitality, etc. Specifically, where is the authority for a family to enroll their children in day-care so the wife can make money?
It follows that the husband and wife have distinct roles. God gave them separate duties and gave each a nature best suited to those duties. To blur these distinctions or to deny they exist is to disobey God. For both the husband and the wife, the greatest satisfaction in marriage comes when they follow God's plan.
Again, the husband's failure to properly fulfill his duties does not justify the wife in failing to fulfill her duties (Rom. 12:17-21; 1 Peter 3:1,2; Luke 6:27-35).
The Parents' Responsibilities to Their Children
Society continually undermines and attacks the right of parents to train and supervise their own children. Entertainment, government agencies, peers, and schools all lead children to think they can "do their own thing." Yet when the children do wrong, these same groups immediately blame the parents!

Parents Should Love Their Children.

Parents are encouraged to leave the training of their children to others, and are told they may kill "unwanted" babies before they are born. As a result, children are often neglected, abused, even abandoned.
Titus 2:4 -- Women should be taught to love their children. Children are a blessing from God, not an unwanted burden (Psalm 127:3-5; 128:1-4).
Parents who love their children will do what is best for them. This requires taking time with children -- quality and quantity time. Abusing and neglecting children is not love.

Parents Should Train Their Children to Know and Obey God's Will.

Few children are truly taught to love God. Even in the Lord's church, the majority of children do not become faithful Christians.
Ephesians 6:4 -- Fathers should bring children up in the training and admonition of the Lord. This includes bringing the children to all meetings of the church, and also teaching them God's word at home (Deut. 6:6-9).
Training children is primarily the work of parents, rather than the church. When children grow up without a knowledge of God and His will, the parents will give account. (See also Prov. 22:6; Gen. 18:19; Deut. 4:9,10; 1 Sam. 2:22-25; 3:13; 2 Tim. 1:5; 3:15).

Parents Should Punish and Reward Children When Necessary to Motivate Them to Do Good and Avoid Evil.

Spanking and all forms of punishment are opposed by our society. Yet God has spoken:
Hebrews 12:5-11 -- The Father in Heaven is an example to parents in chastening children. Why should children be chastised? For their benefit (v10). It causes the child to respect parents and authority in general (v9) and teaches them to act righteously (v11).
Proverbs 13:24; 23:13,14 -- Spanking is not contrary to love. Properly done it is an act of love for the child's good to teach him to live right. It should never be done because the parent has lost his temper or to satisfy a lust for power. (See also Prov. 22:15; 19:18; Luke 15:20-24.)
Rules and discipline should be consistent. Inconsistency provokes the child to anger (Eph. 6:4). The father and mother should agree and work in harmony (Matt. 12:25).
Children must treated fairly and justly -- no favoritism (James 2:8,9). Parents should keep their promises, including the promise to punish (James 5:12).
Parents who do not discipline their children will be held accountable by God (1 Sam. 3:13). Instead of following society's ungodly philosophies about child-rearing, Christians need to fight those concepts with every upright weapon at our disposal. Families that follow God's will are the ones that will truly be blessed.
(See also Col. 3:21; Matt. 23:23).

The Children's Responsibilities to Their Parents

Children Should Listen to Their Parents' Instruction.

Society encourages children to disregard their parents' teachings and make their own choices. Young people often think their parents are unreasonable or do not understand.
Proverbs 6:20-23 -- Listen to the instruction of parents, do not forsake it. Remember that parents are older and more experienced. They may not be perfect (neither are the kids!) yet they are still wiser.
(See also Prov. 1:8; 15:5; 23:22).

Children Should Respect Their Parents.

Young people today mock, ridicule, and openly flaunt their parents. Such conduct is encouraged by many aspects of society and is ignored by many parents.
Ephesians 6:2,3 -- Parents have God-given authority and have generally done much good for the children. They deserve to receive respectful treatment, including respectful speech and attitudes. (Cf. Matt. 15:4; Prov. 6:20-23; 15:5; 23:22.)

Children Should Obey Their Parents.

Rebellion is admired and encouraged by many. Acts that parents have disapproved are yet practiced -- openly or by deception -- because "everybody's doing it" or for a hundred other excuses. Some accept such conduct as inevitable. But all such is disobedience and rebellion.
Ephesians 6:1 -- Children are commanded by the Lord to obey their parents. (See also Col. 3:20; 2 Tim. 3:1,2).
Luke 2:51 -- Jesus set the example of subjection to his parents.
Romans 1:30,32 -- One who refuses to obey his parents is worthy of death, and so are those who approve of such conduct (cf. Deut. 21:18-21).
Children should obey all parental instructions unless they are told to do something sinful (Acts 5:29).
The fact that the parents may have made some mistakes or even sinned does not justify disobedience by the children (Rom. 12:17-21; Luke 6:27-35; etc.)

Children Should Care for Elderly Parents.

Elderly people today are often neglected or shipped to nursing homes, not because this is really needed for the proper care of the parent, but because the children do not want to be bothered.
1 Timothy 5:4,8,16 -- When children are unwilling to care for their elderly parents, they lack appreciation for what their parents did for them, and they also deny the faith. (Cf. Matt. 15:4-6; Ruth 4:13-15; John 19:25-27.)
Making happy homes is not easy, especially in a corrupt society. But God's plan is always best, and the homes that accomplish the most good are those that learn and do His will.

summary - The Bible teaches that God comes first. In Deuteronomy 6:5 we read, “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength.” All of one’s heart, soul, and strength is to be committed to our loving Heavenly Father. If a person is married, then the spouse comes next. A married man is to love his wife as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Christ’s first priority—after obeying and glorifying the Father—was the church. In the same way, wives are to submit to their husbands “as to the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22). A woman’s husband is second only to God in her priorities. Then, if parents have children, their children—should be the next priority. Parents are to raise godly children who will be the next generation of those who love the Lord with all their hearts (Proverbs 22:6; Ephesians 6:4). Deuteronomy 5:16 tells us to honor our parents so that we may live long and so things will go well with us. So, parents are next in the list of priorities after God, our spouses, and our children. After parents comes the rest of one’s family or relatives (1 Timothy 5:8). In the book of 1 Corinthians, is Paul’s instructions on how the church should live together in harmony, loving one another. Other counsel is given to how brothers and sisters in Christ are to “serve one another in love” (Galatians 5:13); “be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you” (Ephesians 4:32); “encourage one another and build each other up” (1 Thessalonians 5:11); and “consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24). Finally, comes the rest of the world (Matthew 28:19), to whom we should bring the gospel and making disciples of Christ. In conclusion, the scriptural order of priorities is God, spouse, children, parents, extended family, brothers and sisters in Christ, and then the rest of the world. 

“A family can survive without a nation, but a nation cannot survive without the family.”
May our Heavenly Father bless you and yours.